Online chatting and flirting – where is the line of do not cross in a relationship?
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ive been with my b/f who i live with for about 4yrs now…he is an internet junky who basically lives his life online and spends almost every waking moment online which in its self can be frustrating….
But my question relates to the fact that he is CONSTANTLY emailing and chatting to other women…which includes flirting talking about *** and talking about our relationship… needless to say this can be rather upsetting…so i guess my question is
Do you think what he is doing is wrong or ok ?
what would you do ?
would you put up with it ?
Is this regarded as a from of cheating ?
Is this normal behavior for some1 who’s in love ?
July 8th, 2008 at 12:20 am
-WRONG
-tell him not to…..
-NO
-in a way…i think
-NO!!
July 10th, 2008 at 8:55 am
he sounds like an efftard my girlfriend would kick my you know what
July 11th, 2008 at 4:42 pm
Completely wrong he is f#cked up. leave him.
July 13th, 2008 at 8:29 am
you are with a sad lil man…. y be with someone who lives on the net…. thats sad…
1.yes its wrong…
2.i would kill him…. nah, ive caught hi before we hada massive fight bout it n i won…
3. didnt put up with it
4.can lead to cheating of course….
5.duno! you cant change someone…. but you can get pissed off..
July 16th, 2008 at 11:28 am
Think about this – what if he were actually setting up dates to meet these women – sounds like he’s shopping on line
Lose the loser before he dumps you
July 19th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
i have one option for you
Divorce the man!
you need a man who doesn’t cheat at all
July 22nd, 2008 at 9:51 pm
Do you think what he is doing is wrong or ok ? It’s wrong!!!
what would you do ? Be furious and confront him.
would you put up with it ? Hell no!!!
Is this regarded as a from of cheating ? Big time.
Is this normal behavior for some1 who’s in love ? In no possible way.
Love is a strong feeling, and usually your eyes are set on the one you love, not flirting with other girls/guys.
July 26th, 2008 at 9:32 am
dump him. you dont need a guy that acts like that. he shouldnt be talking to other women like that when he’s with you. his attention should be directed towards you, not the internet. to answer all your questions. what he is doing is wrong, i wouldnt put up with it, i’d end it, it’s a form of cheating, and it’s not normal behavior. he’s just a complete jerk who thinks you’ll continue to stay with him even though you know what he’s doing. you need a better man.
July 27th, 2008 at 7:37 am
It’s all about treating someone the way you want to be treated.
Would he be pleased if you two switched places?
I think you two may be doomed…he’s addicted to fantasy and you are living in the real world.
Best wishes.
July 29th, 2008 at 11:09 pm
ok well i would say…
Its very wrong
Id talk to him about it
I wouldnt put up with it
It is a form of cheating since he is talking about sex
I wouldnt say its normal..its kinda weird
(thats just what I think tho)
August 1st, 2008 at 5:36 am
I think if you are in a serious relationship, you let that be known. If you are not very vocal in it..then …you should not be on the net.
I would not put up with it…I would lay down the law..but that is just me.
August 3rd, 2008 at 11:08 am
it is none of the other women’s business what you all do in your relationship thats between you and him . .. basically tell him to leave yalls personal life to only you too . . . if the internet gets to be a huge problem then give him an ultimatum, tell him you wont have *** w/him or youll leave him if he doesnt cut back . . . if he still doesnt then he doesnt care about you more than the computer
August 6th, 2008 at 1:43 am
its wrong
tell him to stop
no i wouldnt
yes it kinda is since hes flirting and flirting leadsto other things
normal behavior for you? yes. for him? no
August 9th, 2008 at 12:05 pm
it is def wrong!
dump him
no
its def cheating
if he was in love with you he wouldnt want to spend all his time on the net talking abt *** with other women he would be talking with you!
August 12th, 2008 at 12:54 am
If he is talking about intamacy with another girl, in terms of them having an intimate relatioship, then yes it definetaly. I consider it wrong if he is talking to another girl, and says anything that would be wrong to say in person, so don’t think about it as if he is just talking on the comp. Act like it is just like him saying it to some girl on the random street. This is not normal behavior, and I think it is a form of flirting that leads to cheating, and shoul’dnt be dealt with… Deal with it right now, or next thing you know, he’ll be cheating, if he isn’t already
August 15th, 2008 at 7:23 am
I shall say this to neither raise nor lower hopes, but I’m inlove with a girl, and at work i used to flirt with a few ppl, now I dont even think about it, it is all her…
August 17th, 2008 at 12:22 pm
Of course its wrong. It will be only a matter of time until he finally breaks down and meets one of them.
August 20th, 2008 at 5:37 pm
Bust his computer with a baseball bat then laugh and break up.
August 23rd, 2008 at 10:41 pm
Definitely wrong! He’s been very disrespectful to you and you shouldn’t have to put up with it. I would let him know how much his internet chatting bothers me and ask him to stop it. If he doesn’t, I would end the relationship because in a way, this is cheating even if he’s not having any physical contact with these girls. Maybe if he does it occassionally it is normal behavior, constantly is not normal behavior. I hope things will work out for you. Just remember to stand up for yourself and don’t let your bf try to ease your discomfort unless he really does plan on stopping what he’s doing.
August 26th, 2008 at 3:06 am
It depends on how YOU feel about it, some people feel this is appropriate. However, since you asked, I know how you feel. It is WRONG. Anything you cannot do or say in front of your significant other is disrespectful to the relationship.
I’d ask him how he’d feel if you did it. If he would truly be okay with this and you are truly not, ask him to stop. If he will not, he is not the guy for you. Boundaries have to be drawn and if you aren’t comfortable with his behavior that he is not willing to change, you either need to truly accept if or move on. Don’t try and convince yourself that it’s okay if it’s not. It will always separate the two of you, as long as you are together. It’s not unreasonable to ask him to stop. He has you and that should be enough. Good luck.
August 26th, 2008 at 3:50 am
It is completely wrong, now im not gonna say break up with him because that is your decision and u might regret it but just talk to him and see what is up with him….i can tell you one thing though, u deserve someone who will get his @ss offline and flirt and chat with you
August 26th, 2008 at 5:17 pm
Yes, it’s wrong
I’d dump him
Not for a heartbeat
It IS cheating
No, it’s not normal behavior for anyone!
Right now he has the best of all worlds, doesn’t he? I’ve seen so many relationships and marriages break because of this phenomenon that it breaks my heart. There is obviously something wrong in the relationship that no one wants to address. If you don’t address it now, it will destroy you down the road. Get rid of this in-your-face cheating, humiliating, uncaring bum. He’s living his fantasies out on your computer while you’re doing the dishes. Nice thought, eh?
August 29th, 2008 at 3:02 am
I don’t think it’s cheating but I do think it’s disrespectful to your feelings. If you have talked with him and told him how it makes you feel and he gives complete disregard to your feelings then what I would do is clear as day… DUMP HIM!!! There is a man out there who will care about YOUR FEELINGS, if this one wont. The line is drawn in different areas for many people but this line is obvious for the majority. Talking about *** with other women is just not acceptable (if you mean cybering) If he’s asking them for advice on how to make YOU feel better then maybe he’s sincerely looking for help to benefit your relationship (if this were the case then you’re a pretty lucky lady) You asked if this is normal behavior for someone who is in love, do you mean is it normal behavior or is something we can accept as being normal behavior? i don’t think many would/could accept this type of behavior as being normal, no.
August 31st, 2008 at 10:03 am
Yes sweetie it’s wrong, flirting no matter what the setting is wrong when you’re in a relationship, no this isn’t the normal behavior for someone in love. If he loved you he would want to make you happy above everything else by him constantly being on the computer he’s showing that this is what he cares about. If he’s been doing it the whole time you two have been together then you really have nothing to be mad about because you knew how he was and you moved in with him anyway. Leave now, because his life is that computer and something dramatic is going to have to happen for him to realize that it’s not reality. The time he could be spending with you he’s talking to other women. Leave before he ends up dragging you down with him. Good luck sweetie.
September 1st, 2008 at 3:10 am
Yes it is very wrong…
I would leave him because he is cheating on you…
Hell No!…
YES!
No somebody is lying about being in love…
September 3rd, 2008 at 5:35 am
1 – Wrong,well that depends does he only talk to girls?
2 – I would ask: can I go on your account? go on and find out
3 – HELL TO THE NO!!!!!
4 – I play this one game and alot of people cyber on it so i think yes does he have a web cam?
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5 – unless he is asking how to have the perfect ***.but with flirting then i think hes just another ***** idiot(no offense