Online/LDR with a Cancer male.is he losing interest?
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Where do I begin? I’ve had online flings before, where we chatted on IM and said we liked being together ect in the past. But thats as far as they went. Those usually always last just about a month then die.
Well Dec 5th I started talking to a guy. I live in Florida, him in California. We met off of Youtube of all websites. I made a comment on a Bing Crosby video that I was born in the wrong era. He replied to my comment saying I feel the same way I didn’t think anything of it then. Then I saw his screen name had the word Fiddle in it. I’m mostly Irish and the Fiddle is a big thing to me. I clicked on his screen name thinking I’ll see a middle aged gray haired man…but no, it was a guy in his mid 20′s about my age. I left a comment on his page, saying it was so cool he played the fiddle. The next day I got a personal message on Youtube from him, first we talked about his Fiddle playing, and that we both liked the same style music. 1940′s big ban, crooners, and old Country like bob wills, Eddie Arnold, and even Woody Guthrie. It was so cool to talk to someone my age, throw these names out and they actually knew who they were. We both also love the old Black White Movies and like the same Actors like Jimmy Stewart, and John Wayne, and Gregory Peck. After a week of this, he asked if I had a myspace. After just one day of emailing on myspace, he asked if we can chat on the phone.
That First 2 weeks we would talk on the phone every night for 2-3 hours and never run out of things to say. We’d text each other like 20 times a day…never would 2 hours go by without one texting the other. The chemistry was just amazing, and we even had a few telepathic moments. Like I suggested he should see the movie Shop Around the Corner. The night he watched it, I got off work, I waited patiently for him to finish the movie. When I couldn’t wait any longer I called him, I was gonna ask how much longer? instead he says how did you do that?? I just finished the movie like 10 seconds ago!
Another one..when I think of our future together for some reason the walls in our house are red..don’t know why…so after 2 weeks of this I told him, and he said the hair on him stood up because he wants red walls.
We wanna live in the same part of the country, like to do the same stuff. We both used to be runners, I started running again, and so did he. If there was a such thing of a perfect match for me…he is it! After the first week he was set on using his next vacation time to come to Florida in April, and as of last night he still is.
That first month was great, every single morning he would text me good morning beautiful, and go to Youtube and share songs with me. He still texts me goodmorning..but its not goodmorning beautiful andf he doesn’t send me videos on youtube anymore. He used to text me back right away. now not so much. he went from texting me 20 times a day to more like 5 times now. Saturday he recieved a card in the mail from me. It was the first thing I ever sent him. He said he got misty eyed and read it over and over. He really liked it!! Monday was the very first night we didn’t talk on the phone since this started, because he was sick. Didn’t talk Tuesday either. Last night we talked but for only 30 minutes. I am really worried that he’s losing interest, and I’m trying to not text him all the time and look like I’m desperate. As of 3pm my time 12 noon his he text me once..I’ve text him 3 times. He went from texting me saying how much he missed me, and saying he loves me…to well hasn’t done any of that in 3 days. I said I loved him yesterday and he said he loved me to, but its not the same as him saying it first. I expressed my concern about him waiting 4 months for me, but he asured me Don’t you worry about me like he was for real.
I’ve never been this serious in a LDR or online relationship before so I’m not sure if this is a sure sign that its going down hill or just calming down? how do I get him interested in me again?
December 25th, 2008 at 4:10 am
Another capricorn/cancer love story!!! What’s the deal with these 2 signs!?!?
December 25th, 2008 at 4:49 pm
Don’t worry, we cancers are very loyal and hardly ever lose interest in someone. Unless they do something mean. But even then, if they apologize, we’d still be likely to give them many more chances. Seriously, when they say Cling, they mean Cling! We hardly ever let go, unless there is rational reason to. We are quite rational actually. they say we go on feelings…but yes, ok what we do is that we give our feelings lots of importance. We’re always aware of how we feel. But we can also ignore our temporary, fleeting feelings for the sake of common sense….aka IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON. So we do know when to move on. We just have strong feelings and strong attachments, so as long as the person is not horribly evil or has too much drama that we is making us drown in it, we will stand by you and always forgive you. (until it gets to be too much of coure. There should always be a line there, right?)
Remember, Cancer’s teaching is Love is devotion. Haha! so there’s nothin’ we do better!
Ok, I have a capricorn best friend, so I see the resemblance. She gets very sad and worried that i dont call her enough or hang out enough, and I just need some space and some time by myself. I really like spending time with myself. heehee. So she holds her feelings from me and one day explodes about them when we have a tiny misunderstanding about something insignificant, and I tell her, where did all this come from, you know? I had no idea she felt that way, and i if i had known, i wouldve done something about it a long time ago.
To us cancers, there is nothing, sweeter, nothing nicer, nothing that feels better, than to make someone ELSE feel better. So, yeah, now I’m calling her more, hanging out with her more. just because she needs it, you know? That’s what makes her happy, and it’s simple for me to do so it couldn’t be any better than that.
What you really, urgently, desperately need to do..is tell him about it. That’s what I would have given 100 dollars for my friend to have done for me, tell me sooner! So she wouldn’t have had to suffer for so long. (Lol.) that’s just terrible! Alright, so please, go ahead, tell him about it…he will probably be like, really i had no idea..i’m so sorry. Just be nice about it don’t accuse him of anything like you did this this this and this and you never do This. WHY?! lol. Instead try Listen I’ve been very worried lately that you’re losing interest in me. This thought has been killing me! Will you please tell me if I’m worrying about absolutely nothing?! Please, it’s really really killing me.
We respond very well to vulnerability. To asking for help, admitting feeling bad about oneself, admitting feeling worried, sad, hopeless desperate pathetic. Haha. We do respond very well to someone admitting their own vulnerability, being very honest about it. It’s very attractive to us. We like to nurture! Remember! so let yourself be nurtured, and enjoy the ride
December 29th, 2008 at 2:14 am
Im a cancer female and cancers tend to retreat when they have a lot on their mind. Sometimes people take this as a personal thing but its really about us sorting things out. Maybe he is trying to figure out how to proceed with this relationship. Long distance relationships are hard. Would you consider moving or would he? Maybe you and he need to talk seriously about where this is going to go. If there is no possibility of a real relationship then i would move on, as hard as it may be. Why waste your time on something that doesn’t have a future?