When should a man delete his online dating account after meeting someone?
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I’m just curious. He says he is looking for something long-term and seems genuinely interested in me. We’ve only gone on two dates but talk a lot. I haven’t been on there since I first started emailing him, but out of curiousity today I got online to see what he was up to. He’d logged in two days ago. I’m just wondering what the etiquette is on this.
When I logged onto today I also deleted my account, not because I’m putting all my eggs in one basket. Just that I’ve met a couple people who weren’t what they said they were and there were a lot of ******** on there too. I’m a busy working girl and don’t want to keep up on it anymore.
April 5th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
He’s probably logging on to see if you are logging on. Give it some time. You can discuss it when if things get serious.
April 8th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
i would say as soon as you both decide to be commited to one another !
April 10th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
ask him what he wants tell him that there is a reason he met you so if he dont like you to stop playing around or delete it urself but then he will think your CRAZY so thats not a good idea
April 12th, 2009 at 3:13 am
Checking up on him is kind of sneaky, but understandable. Yet, I don’t want to see you get off to a bad start on this new relationship.
I’d suggest updating your profile to say you are currently unavailable.
April 14th, 2009 at 5:35 pm
He’s still dating. Currently he’s dating you. He could also date Miss Sally or Mary Lou. Two dates do not make a relationship. When and if he feels he wants a relationship with you I’m sure he’ll cancel the account.
April 17th, 2009 at 10:34 am
I don’ think there is an ettiquettee as such…2 dates is not a relationship….so he may still be open minded about dating others….when you have gone on 4 or 5 dates or slept together then the subject of an exclusive relationship should be brought up.
April 18th, 2009 at 5:04 am
You’ve only been on 2 dates. Talking alot is not a relationship. Unless you are IN a relationship with this man, do not assume he isn’t still dating. You should keep dating as well. He may really be looking for something long term but doesn’t want to just latch on to someone he’s only been out with twice. Women do this all the time, like a guy and immediately want commitment. Be more selective yourself. Keep looking for Mr Right. This guy could be but you won’t know that if you don’t keep looking.
April 18th, 2009 at 3:00 pm
I dont think there is an etiquette on that. After two dates and still talking, really doesnt mean anything. He is just being realistic. If he did delete his account, that would be him putting all of his eggs in your basket. Which would be crazy after a couple dates. I personally would wait until I was exclusive with a person before i deleted. I do not have any online dating accounts, a myspace, or a facebook….I prefer to live my life with a handshake, hug, a smile, and a conversation. But good luck with it all.
April 21st, 2009 at 3:18 pm
My sister did this. Get a new e-mail id and create an identity maybe even with a photo of someone else. See if he bites the hook. If he does, then you’ll know.
Although two dates is not a long enough time. I would give him a month and see if he does is on his own first. Other wise you can mention that you also have an on-line dating account and see if it bothers him.
April 25th, 2009 at 2:09 am
I met my spouse online like that….we both deleted them after we actually had the talk about what we were. And it definitely wasn’t after two dates. It was about 8 dates in that we finally deleted them. But we both didn’t check them very often once we started to hang out. And if he isn’t signing on daily, I wouldn’t worry about it.
April 25th, 2009 at 11:05 pm
two dates is hardly long enough to consider yourself exclusive or in a serious relationship.
once you are exclusive then accounts should be deleted or if they forget to do so then at least have no activity.
April 26th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
You have only been on 2 dates. It is not that serious yet. Since you logged to see if he has logged on then you have not deleted your account either. Play it by ear and see what happens. Best of luck.
April 30th, 2009 at 7:25 am
well ppl keep their account open just in case well since you see that he still has his don’t delete yours and keep it just in case he isn’t what he says he is and if you see that you too are getting close wait at least 3 months after you really get to know him and often check if he logs in or not
also a thing to keep in mind what if he just logged in to check on you like you did with him
April 30th, 2009 at 8:09 am
Well if you two have only gone out on two dates I wouldn’t worry much. Maybe after a month or two and you’ve gotten closer to each other or decide to make it official and he STILL has it then it’s time to make a big deal out of it. Eventually he won’t go up there anymore if he’s really into you.
My boyfriend and I met on myspace. I got rid of my acct about a year ago(my own personal choice). He still has his so I made a fake acct to chk his log-in dates. He hasn’t logged in in a looonng time. Every now and then he will because he still chats with his high school friends or old co workers. So I say don’t worry:-)