I’m debating whether or not to keep emailing a friend.advice welcome.keep reading for details?
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I’m 28 married, I have a girl friend who is 32 single. We’ve known each other for 10 yrs. 3 years ago, the time I met my now husband, she was diagnosed with epilepsy. She hasn’t driven since and her condition has worsened. She had to move back home with her parents, and she never dates anymore. She wasn’t happy when I got married because she loved us both to be single so we could go out and party together; now all we do is email. I don’t get together with her because she might have a seizure. She used to write to me several times a day but as of recently, it has dwindled to once every 2 weeks. She claims it’s whenever her computer lets her get online. I really have no reason to keep in touch with her anymore – and am wondering if this would be a good time just to stop emailing. It seems time to move on…that we no longer have anything in common and we’re on two different levels – and I think she feels the same but doesn’t know how to say it. Is this the right thing to do?
July 24th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
i think u should always keep ur old friends around b/c they know u the best even tho u guys might be seperated by distance, conditions, etc. but it ends up on you, if ur willin to put forth the effort in keep being friends, there are no burnt bridges so why not???
July 25th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
when you got a friendship as good as you’rs. don’t let it go.
July 26th, 2009 at 8:30 am
it sounds as if thereis a lack of common interest.its perfectly natural that friends drift apart,especially after one has gotten married.you should feel no guilt for this.my advice would be to email only when she emails you.
July 27th, 2009 at 10:45 am
Since the two of you are in different levels (in life) now, that doesn’t mean your friendship with each other ends as well. I agree to some of the answers that you two should keep the friendship ’cause good friends are hard to find and it’s really a waste to let it go. I think it isn’t better to stop communicating with her because both of you had been special to each other and memories are all you have right now which you have in your hearts. Though things are a bit complicated, maybe things will slowly heal as time goes by. Maybe one of her reasons to less communicate with you is that she doesn’t want to bother you since you have your own life already. She still might need you in her heart though she might also know that things have been different. Things might not be clear between you but I think It’s alo important to her to hear from you often.
Find in your hearts to forgive each other and try to make things feel well to each other and don’t push yourselves to bring back the things way they were. Don’t let the communication stop even though so many things have changed. It could just be the beginning of a new chapter in your lives which you and your friend have to go through.
July 28th, 2009 at 4:54 pm
If she is a good friend, try to keep the lines of communication open. She may not be as able to write to you as often and just because you can’t do the things together that you used to, doesn’t mean you should end it. And SHE may think you want to move on too…and is afraid to know.