Archive for the ‘Etiquette’ Category

Would this be considerdered harassement? Via email? ?



In our office we have a lead position, essentially the one in charge before you get to upper management. This person tries very hard to be politically correct in all her tasks due to an utlrasensitive staff who often take things to heart, etc. We are all on a mass email, when little things become a trend, sometimes in effort to keep things on track there will be very kind reminder emails, acting as a reminder to keep the group on task.

My concern? This lead is a new person, 2 months old in the position. One of our staff keeps blasting personal emails back to this person and letting her have it. Yesterday this happened agian where a group email was sent to us, and the hot head let her have it again.

I understand she was in the administrator’s office yesteray, and it’s well clear she told them this is harassement. SHe has recieved 3 emails of this nature, one only after being in her new position 2 weeks, this last one made personal pokes about some of her errors, and of couse it’s cc’d to the entire management team. Her claim of harassement can be supported as I hear know that she has journaled verbal interactions with this person, who often dispells personal issues with other staff in open areas.. well heard around. The email though attacking in a sense to a semi suprior… is harassement or an attemp to intimidate?

How do you tell MOM to stop emailing me?



She recently discovered email and now she sends me everything about everything! I’m talking about spam!!!! I don’t want to be rude to her but I don’t want her emailing me. She needs email etiquette 101.

One of my guests is questioning my guest list. How do I respond?



I am throwing a party to celebrate my parents’ wedding anniversary. I’m the only child and am taking a lot of pride in handling the arrangements on my own, as a gift to them.

I don’t have a lot of money but I found a nice small venue that I could afford and asked my guests to make it a potluck BBQ. The venue only holds 25 people, which would include my parents’ siblings and their children, and two friends they have known for twenty years.

Now my aunt is emailing me with a bunch of questions about whether I invited this great-aunt or that second cousin, which I did not. This was the only place I found that I could afford on my own, and I am hurt that my aunt in questioning me and my judgement.

I feel that if she wanted to control the guest list, she could have planned a party herself. But I am the hostess and should be able to invite as many people as I want.

Please help me respond to her inquiries in a manner that is polite and respectful (I know she thinks she’s helping) but which indicates that I have made my decisions and do not need her questioning me. I don’t want to cause problems in the family or make people feel that they weren’t wanted: it’s just that this was what I could afford to give them.

Annual mass ‘brag’ emails disguised as ‘holiday cards’?



What do you think when you get a mass email from a friend entitled Happy Holidays from us, that incls a link to a page that shows (brags) about their vacation, their new car, their new job, their trip to the Oscars in LA, etc.? I generally get a text only email from them each year, and do loathe its arrival. However, this year, they included pictures, too. I understand the lack of time which warrants a mass email–don’t agree with it, but understand. The issue is that a holiday card should be something wishing the recipient happy holidays, happy new year, etc., vs. a vehicle to brag about the material things you’ve acquired or enjoyed this past year. And no, am not jealous, it’s from two *** men, and I’m a woman who does pretty well for herself. :) Is it just me, or is this poor holiday etiquette?
on a side note, i hear from them quite often and already knew about all these things.

One of my guests is questioning my guest list. How do I respond?



I am throwing a party to celebrate my parents’ wedding anniversary. I’m the only child and am taking a lot of pride in handling the arrangements on my own, as a gift to them.

I don’t have a lot of money but I found a nice small venue that I could afford and asked my guests to make it a potluck BBQ. The venue only holds 25 people, which would include my parents’ siblings and their children, and two friends they have known for twenty years.

Now my aunt is emailing me with a bunch of questions about whether I invited this great-aunt or that second cousin, which I did not. This was the only place I found that I could afford on my own, and I am hurt that my aunt in questioning me and my judgement.

I feel that if she wanted to control the guest list, she could have planned a party herself. But I am the hostess and should be able to invite as many people as I want.

Please help me respond to her inquiries in a manner that is polite and respectful (I know she thinks she’s helping) but which indicates that I have made my decisions and do not need her questioning me. I don’t want to cause problems in the family or make people feel that they weren’t wanted: it’s just that this was what I could afford to give them.

One of my guests is questioning my guest list. How do I respond?



I am throwing a party to celebrate my parents’ wedding anniversary. I’m the only child and am taking a lot of pride in handling the arrangements on my own, as a gift to them.

I don’t have a lot of money but I found a nice small venue that I could afford and asked my guests to make it a potluck BBQ. The venue only holds 25 people, which would include my parents’ siblings and their children, and two friends they have known for twenty years.

Now my aunt is emailing me with a bunch of questions about whether I invited this great-aunt or that second cousin, which I did not. This was the only place I found that I could afford on my own, and I am hurt that my aunt in questioning me and my judgement.

I feel that if she wanted to control the guest list, she could have planned a party herself. But I am the hostess and should be able to invite as many people as I want.

Please help me respond to her inquiries in a manner that is polite and respectful (I know she thinks she’s helping) but which indicates that I have made my decisions and do not need her questioning me. I don’t want to cause problems in the family or make people feel that they weren’t wanted: it’s just that this was what I could afford to give them.

Would it be better if I showed this to my mom instead of emailing her?



This is what I would like to be for Halloween:

Costume: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItemitem=290253022366

Accessory: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItemitem=360073841401

I was going to email her asking her for it, but then I thought of showing it to her. Which do you think would be better? But before I do send/Show it to her I was going to make a list of reasons why I should have it. Reason List’s usually work better.
this is what it looks like SORRY FOR DEAD LINK BEFORE

http://img180.exs.cx/img180/3401/11043224364937ei.jpg

Accessory:

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://cnb-host3.clickandbuild.com/cnb/shop/powerranger%3FimageID%3D1085%26op%3DimgLib-viewImageimgrefurl=http://cnb-host3.clickandbuild.com/cnb/shop/powerranger%3FproductID%3D516%26op%3Dcatalogue-product_info-null%26prodCategoryID%3D3h=280w=350sz=41hl=enstart=4um=1tbnid=XCQ5Aryl2kMCwM:tbnh=96tbnw=120prev=/images%3Fq%3Dspd%2Bmorpher%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official%26sa%3DX

I want the one in Pink